Good afternoon, dear friends 😀
This year marks the 8th year that I retired from my career and became a full time homemaker. The switch was quite drastic because when I was working, I had a maid to take care of the house chores and cooking for the family. Due to problems with maids, I decided to do away with any domestic helper and became the empress of my household instead. 😆
The main and crucial factor that moved me and my hubby to take this step was for the wellbeing of our children. Seeing as we have 4 kids, we want them to be brought up and nurtured properly with their parent at home (me), instead of having some temporary maid look after them.
There are times when the dreary housechores and the no-pay-for-me situation make it hard to motivate me but I take pride in seeing my family being well looked after, especially seeing my children grow up.
Today, my 17-year old daughter told me something that made my heart go all warm and my eyes all teary from joy – that I have done these 8 years was all worth it! When we are working, our job performance is rewarded by the size of our paycheck….but as homemakers, there is nothing concrete to measure how we do.
The Person That Inspires Me The Most –
“I’m confident everyone has an inspiring person they look up to – a person who motivates them to strive for the best in life, a person who holds a special place in his or her heart. We work hard to improve ourselves and our lives, and we feel it is important to overcome each day and each obstacle, because we are inspired by that special person’s strong spirit.
I, too, have a person who is the driving force in making me a better person. This person is none other than my mother. If there is an award for the most selfless person in the world, that award definitely – and without a doubt – goes to my mom. My mom always puts others’ needs above hers: like how she always waits for my dad to come home from work, no matter how late, so to make sure his dinner is still warm; like how she always gives us the best fried chicken bits, because it’s our favourite.
My mom also has such immense compassion. I remember once, there was a kitten stuck in a 1-metre-deep drain outside of our house, and it was crying noisily all morning. My mom felt so sad for the poor kitten and was adamant that she rescued the little kitten (although she couldn’t climb in and my sister saved the kitten instead)! It was such an awe-striking scene, but I was (still am) impressed. She is the reason why I’m such an animal-lover.
Also, my mom can be said to be the family’s happy bone. She radiates happiness just from a broad smile, and it cheers us up immediately. Aside from that, she is my source of comfort when I feel down and depressed. At times, I can be so frustrated and moody that I’ll snap rudely to anyone who talks to me. My mom understands that, and without speaking she’ll just squeeze my hand gently, as if to say inaudibly, “I’m here for you.”
My mom always teaches my siblings and I to be humble and thankful for all that we possess. She came from a poor family and always speaks of the measly food they could only afford for three meals a day. She reprimands us whenever we don’t finish our food, and thus we learn never to be greedy with food. Here’s a funny bit: my mom’s the one who influenced my dad to be thrifty! Imagine my dad doing so just to impress my mom, back when they were dating, but now I can see that my mom has influenced him greatly
Mommy (I still call her that sometimes) also teaches us to always put nothing above family. She says to always cherish and appreciate the people we love, and no comfort can replace the comfort a family offers. She always tells my siblings and I fondly that, “I love each of you equally, because you’re all my beloved children.” She brings us up to be kind and responsible, and to work hard so that we can build a better life as independent adults.
I am the person I have become today, thanks to Mommy. Not only that, I will become the person I want to be, encouraged by Mommy’s strong-spirit. Whenever I achieve something great, I will think of her and her proud smile. I love you, Mom!”
I’m really flattered by this essay and my daughter’s inner thoughts – wow, am I glad I quit my job to take care of my family! 😀
With peace, harmony and prosperity to you all,
choesf aka HappyHomemaker88 😀