Inspiration For Being A Stay-At-Home Mom


Good afternoon, dear friends ๐Ÿ˜€

This year marks the 8th year that I retired from my career and became a full time homemaker. The switch was quite drastic because when I was working, I had a maid to take care of the house chores and cooking for the family. Due to problems with maids, I decided to do away with any domestic helper and became the empress of my household instead. ๐Ÿ˜†

The main and crucial factor that moved me and my hubby to take this step was for the wellbeing of our children. Seeing as we have 4 kids, we want them to be brought up and nurtured properly with their parent at home (me), instead of having some temporary maid look after them.

There are times when the dreary housechores and the no-pay-for-me situation make it hard to motivate me but I take pride in seeing my family being well looked after, especially seeing my children grow up.

Today, my 17-year old daughter told me something that made my heartย go all warmย and my eyes allย teary from joy –ย that ย I have done these 8 years was all worth it! When we are working, our job performance is rewarded byย the size of our paycheck….but asย  homemakers, there is nothing concrete to measure how we do.

The Person That Inspires Me The Most –

“Iโ€™m confident everyone has an inspiring person they look up to โ€“ a person who motivates them to strive for the best in life, a person who holds a special place in his or her heart. We work hard to improve ourselves and our lives, and we feel it is important to overcome each day and each obstacle, because we are inspired by that special personโ€™s strong spirit.

I, too, have a person who is the driving force in making me a better person. This person is none other than my mother. If there is an award for the most selfless person in the world, that award definitely โ€“ and without a doubt โ€“ goes to my mom. My mom always puts othersโ€™ needs above hers: like how she always waits for my dad to come home from work, no matter how late, so to make sure his dinner is still warm; like how she always gives us the best fried chicken bits, because itโ€™s our favourite.

My mom also has such immense compassion. I remember once, there was a kitten stuck in a 1-metre-deep drain outside of our house, and it was crying noisily all morning. My mom felt so sad for the poor kitten and was adamant that she rescued the little kitten (although she couldnโ€™t climb in and my sister saved the kitten instead)! It was such an awe-striking scene, but I was (still am) impressed. She is the reason why Iโ€™m such an animal-lover.

Also, my mom can be said to be the familyโ€™s happy bone. She radiates happiness just from a broad smile, and it cheers us up immediately. Aside from that, she is my source of comfort when I feel down and depressed. At times, I can be so frustrated and moody that Iโ€™ll snap rudely to anyone who talks to me. My mom understands that, and without speaking sheโ€™ll just squeeze my hand gently, as if to say inaudibly, โ€œIโ€™m here for you.โ€

My mom always teaches my siblings and I to be humble and thankful for all that we possess. She came from a poor family and always speaks of the measly food they could only afford for three meals a day. She reprimands us whenever we donโ€™t finish our food, and thus we learn never to be greedy with food. Hereโ€™s a funny bit: my momโ€™s the one who influenced my dad to be thrifty! Imagine my dad doing so just to impress my mom, back when they were dating, but now I can see that my mom has influenced him greatly

Mommy (I still call her that sometimes) also teaches us to always put nothing above family. She says to always cherish and appreciate the people we love, and no comfort can replace the comfort a family offers. She always tells my siblings and I fondly that, โ€œI love each of you equally, because youโ€™re all my beloved children.โ€ She brings us up to be kind and responsible, and to work hard so that we can build a better life as independent adults.

I am the person I have become today, thanks to Mommy. Not only that, I will become the person I want to be, encouraged by Mommyโ€™s strong-spirit. Whenever I achieve something great, I will think of her and her proud smile. I love you, Mom!”

I’m really flattered by this essay and my daughter’s inner thoughts –ย wow, am I glad I quit my job to take care of my family! ๐Ÿ˜€

With peace, harmony and prosperity to you all,

choesf aka HappyHomemaker88 ๐Ÿ˜€


12 Responses so far »

  1. 1

    Asha said,

    So happy to read this post! So many people look down upon the “job” of homemakers as “rewardless” and “thankless” choice! Only we, who stay at home by choice know how rewarding it is and know that how much kids appreciate it. I have 2 teenagers as well, I am proud to say that I have raised them almost singlehandedly into wonderful compassionate citizens and I know how much they love having me at home when they come back from school. Being at home full time is not everybody’s cup of tea, I know it’s not that easy and it takes quite an effort to adjust to stay at home by choice! :))
    Great job, I applaud you to have the courage to leave a well paying job and enjoy being a “just a homemaker”! ๐Ÿ˜€


  2. 2

    happyhomemaker88 said,

    Hi there and welcome to another fellow homemaker, dear Asha ๐Ÿ˜€

    Thank you for your lovely comments. I’m happy for you, too, that you made the choice to stay at home and raised your kids. Only a homemaker will understand another. I have been to both sides of the “camp” – at work and at home – while I was working, I never really understood what the homemaker has to go through. I thought it was an easy job, staying at home and having naps in the afternoon. Well, I was so wrong! There was so much to do being a mother, a driver, a maid, a chef, a gardener…..well, you know exactly what I mean….. ๐Ÿ™„ ๐Ÿ˜†

    Do drop by whenever you are free, and we’ll both put up our tired feet…and have a cup of virtual tea or coffee together. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    With peace, happiness and prosperity,

    choesf ๐Ÿ˜€


  3. 3

    Louise said,

    Beautiful ๐Ÿ™‚ .. Please pass a tissue please…

    My daughter lives so far away and I miss her terribly. I was a single mother of two for 17 years and staying home was not an option. My daughter is now a mother of two and like you, she gave up her career to stay at home with the kids. She sometimes gets frustrated but then reflects on how many times she wished I could be there to “squeeze her hand.”

    I’m so glad she made the choice to stay at home and I am especially thankful for my wonderful son-in-law who appreciates her being at home and will do with a bit less to reap so much more.

    Thank you so much for sharing this treasure with us today ๐Ÿ˜€


  4. 4

    happyhomemaker88 said,

    My hat off to you for bringing up your 2 children single-handedly, dear Louise ๐Ÿ˜€ – I salute all single mothers who would have to work many times harder than me in bringing up their children. I admire your tenacity, perseverance and great love as a single mom. {{{Big Hug}}} for you! ๐Ÿ˜€

    At least you are a grandmother now. My eldest daughter is 22 and she just started dating, so it’ll be quite a while before I become a grandmother or all my kids get married. ๐Ÿ˜†

    Most children won’t really know what a mom’s love and care is until they have moved out and experience being a parent themselves, I guess.

    Thank you for sharing your experience as a single mom. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    With love and peace,

    choesf ๐Ÿ˜€


  5. 5

    sweetrosie said,

    *sob,sob,sob* dear choesf, such a beautiful post. Your daughter is as compassionate and insightful as her beautiful mother. You know when your work has been worthwhile when your child has grown to be someone who can express the important things in life so beautifully.

    This was so very poignant for me at the moment. Much to my very great distress I seem unable to reach my own daughter at the moment – she is holding her thoughts somewhere deep inside and cannot share with me. Of course I blame myself – every mother does I think.

    I take strength from your love and from your dedication to your family. Woman like yourself are the unsung heroes of the world (and I wish they ruled the world, it would be a better place ๐Ÿ™‚ )

    love and hugs for you xxxxx


  6. 6

    happyhomemaker88 said,

    Oh, my dear sweetrosie, my heart aches with you in your distress with your daughter. ๐Ÿ˜ฅ If only we mothers could just wave a magic wand or something and break down all the barriers of communication with our children. My eldest daughter is not as open as this Natasha is, sometimes, I have trouble getting through to her, too! ๐Ÿ™„

    Please don’t blame yourself, sweetrosie, I’m sure you would have done the best you could with your maternal instincts to improve the situation with your daughter. Sometimes, being teenagers, they need some space and they don’t want to talk to someone older, especially their mothers.

    Remember we were teeanagers once before โ“ You may not believe it, but I was rebellious to a certain degree then, too, with my parents…. ๐Ÿ˜†

    So happens there is now a prayer offered by Master atan, specially for gathering good energies to heal the mind, body and spirit, in addition to improving one’s wealth luck – the prayer ceremony is for the whole family and costs only US$28. I am going to write about it today and meanwhile, you can read about it here –

    If you are open to the concepts of feng shui, alternative healing and energies, you may like to consider this prayer ceremony for peace of mind in your family. Heheh, I likened this ceremony like a family spa, except that it is even more potent. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Many comforting hugs and much support for you,

    choesf ๐Ÿ˜€


  7. 7

    sweetrosie said,

    Thank you my friend. Your advice is timely. I am going to go for a little quiet time at Master Atans’ website as soon as I get some nice time – I always feel better after my visits ๐Ÿ™‚

    Your beautiful posts and recommendations do so much for all of your faithful fans ๐Ÿ™‚

    *big cuddly hug* for you my friend


  8. 8

    happyhomemaker88 said,

    **Big cuddly hugs**, too, to my Australian friend, dear sweetrosie! ๐Ÿ˜†

    Hope you get some rest time and put up those tired feet soon. I had written some information about the “Body, Mind & Spirit” prayer here, in case you missed it –

    Have a lovely week ahead!

    More hugs again,

    choesf ๐Ÿ˜†


  9. 9

    manila said,

    Hi Choesf,

    Now this is not fair. I read this post today morning and you had me (your daughter had me) cry first thing in the morning. What she wrote in the essay is truly a reward which is much much greater than any pay check one can ever get.

    I too am a home maker and my daughter is only 3.5 years old but I want to be there for her every time. Money is not everything in life, values are. When children see their mom around all the time, they feel very secure. They learn things by observing you. They start helping moms at a early age.

    You have inculcated in your children family values as I know from some other posts of yours. I admire you for that.


    • 10

      happyhomemaker88 said,

      Good morning from Kuala Lumpur, dear manila ๐Ÿ˜€

      Thank you for your comments ๐Ÿ˜ณ :D… my daughter wrote this essay in her English Writing class and I wanted to share it with all those homemakers out there and let them know that it is all worth the time and effort you put into your family. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Your daughter is still young but you will really see how a lovely lady with good upbringing she will be in just a few more years. I have seen so many children where they were brought up mainly by maids and I am sad to say that most of them turn out to be rebellious and not so involved in the family activities. There was even this 10-year old boy that shouted rudely to his mother (she is always travelling overseas for work) when we visited their house. ๐Ÿ˜ฏ

      Do have a lovely day!

      With peace and joy,

      choesf ๐Ÿ˜€


  10. 11

    Raty said,

    Hi Choesf,
    Beautiful essay, indeed!
    I love your blog. I am also a stay-at-home mum with 3 kids (eldest in university).
    It’s not easy but rewarding, as I looked back, I am very blessed to be able to spend my time with my children and husband.
    I love all the recipes you posted and have tried one.. They love it!!! Thanks…
    All the best to you,
    Raty, Vancouver Canada


    • 12

      Hi there, dear Raty ๐Ÿ˜€

      Thank you for your lovely, encouraging comments – I’m always happy to hear from another stay-at-home mom ! ๐Ÿ˜€

      Our “job” at home can’t be quantified nor measured in order to gauge how we do daily, but seeing how our children are properly brought up with our love and attention is the best joyful reward any mother can feel. ๐Ÿ˜‰

      Do drop by whenever you are free and we will have a cup of “virtual coffee or tea” together here. ๐Ÿ˜†

      Vancouver is a really beautiful place to live in – my husband and I lived there for 2 years back in the early 80’s. ๐Ÿ˜‰

      With best wishes,

      choesf ๐Ÿ˜€


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